Have you ever noticed that sometimes we do more to help someone else overcome the most difficult of obstacles than we do for ourselves? In my work, I've found that most people will care for themselves to a point yet will go above and beyond for others often at their own expense.

This is because when you walk into the unknown you are really walking into your fear. Fear is simply an acronym for False Expectations Appearing Real. It's a future perception that there will be more pain than pleasure, more bad than good, more sad than happy.

In this universe, everything is in balance. There is never more pain than please, bad than good, sad than happy. It's just our perception. We often become paralyzed by fear when we think about doing something in the future that we aren't sure of. Our doubts creep into our conscious thought and we start to imagine the worst case scenario's.

When we break it down, fear is just a perception that if we go to that 'place' we won't be able to handle it. We won't be able to handle whatever we are confronted with. We won't have the tools or skills necessary. We won't be fully equipped to deal with the possibilities that may arise.

The way that you manage fear is actually quite easy. The first thing you need to do is get specific with what the fear is really all about. What are you really afraid of? Chunk it down until you can come up with something that you feel emotional about. Then, write a list of all the benefits of actually doing the thing you are afraid of. Keep writing the benefits until the fear no longer exists. Then, when you have balanced out your lopsided perceptions you won't feel afraid anymore. You'll be able to make a clear decision on the right course of action without the emotions getting in the way. You will have more clarity and certainty about the right path.

When we balance out any lopsided emotions, we really step into our own Personal Power. We are able to make better decisions and the path to carrying out our goals becomes clearer. Doesn't that sound like something better to focus on?