Whether you are running a household or running a life, you make hundreds of choices and decisions a day. Decisions about what to do next, what is important, what is going to get done and what is going to get left out.

Our lives are built on the decisions and choices that we make each day. By focusing our minds on what is truly important to us, we will begin to notice more opportunities and get into action around them.

The first step in this process is to clearly define what we value. Start by listing 5-7 values and priorities in your life. The key here is not to stop at a one word answer. Break it down into the simplest, most complete definition you can. For example, if you have a value for 'Family' don't stop at that one word. That word can mean something entirely different to any two people. Write out exactly what it is about family that you value. Is it the love and closeness of your immediate family or spouse? Is it being able to depend on them and vice versa? Or is it the boisterous laughter and fun times with your extended family that you value? And remember, there are no 'right' or 'wrong' values. This is a self discovery process!

Once you have identified 3-5 values, the next step is to write them on note cards. Use one card for each value and its definition and keep them handy in your purse or by your bed. If you want to go to the head of the class, write a few goals out as well. Read over them first thing in the morning, before you go to bed and as you have an opportunity during your day like when you are waiting in line or stuck in traffic. Don't worry about memorizing them. Just read them over a few times a day.

By using this technique you are focusing your mind and training it to go into 'seek  mode' for the things that are most important to you. Soon, you will begin to see people and opportunities that are around you that you didn't notice before. Knowing exactly what we value is the key to creating an authentic life of meaning and purpose.