Of course you've heard that there are thousands of ways to rid fear from your life. Programs, potions, pills, Get Rid of Fear quick schemes, books. A whole industry has been born out of our need to control our fears. Wouldn't it be amazing if we could completely rid our lives of fear altogether?
Or would it...

Little by little as you begin to absorb this month's newsletter, you'll become aware that fear is actually quite useful. Fear is a really essential part of our journey. It allows us to know certain things like:

When there is the possibility of danger approaching us

• When we're afraid of getting chastised for doing something we know we shouldn't have(like eating those chocolate biscuits we shouldn't)
• When we've stepped out on a ledge and are out of our comfort zone

There have been many times in your life that fear has proven to be your savior. It's funny to even entertain the idea that fear is there for the purposes of keeping you safe.

I have recently experienced some pretty debilitating fears myself. These fears had so much control over my thoughts and feelings I found myself in an interesting situation. A situation that left me questioning my purpose. I kept saying to myself, "It shouldn't be this hard."

But when I realized what the fear was actually around, I then had a choice. I got to choose how I am going to manage this state. Was it all in my head or was the fear / danger real?

Lucky for me, the fear was all in my head. I didn't have a stranger beating at my front door. I didn't have a life threatening incident. Thank the heavens for that.

My fear was all around, what if no-one wants to listen to what I have to say. Now, throughout my life, especially in my childhood, I was very shy and introverted. I remember many times wanting to blend into the background so that no-one could see me. The thought of someone noticing me used to send me into a complete panic and run desperately in search of my mother's skirt.

I spent the better part of my life keeping my thoughts to myself because I didn't think that anyone would be interested in what I had to say. Now, it's a little different - I'm glad to say.

I've found my voice and I have something important to say. In this moment of fear, I had to stop and ask myself a better question and those of you who have experienced a session with me will know that this is a big part of what we do. The question I asked myself was this:

Is this fear the fear of a woman about to turn 40 or is it the fear of a small child?

The answer:

It was the fear of me as a small child. The fear that I was running was the fear that I have carried around with me, unconsciously, since I was very little. And here I am, about to turn 40, and I'm still running that very same pattern. So what did I do. I asked myself this question:

What will it mean if no-one listens?

Will it mean that my point is not valid? - No.
Will it mean that I'm not good enough? - No.
Will it mean that no-one will ever listen to me again? - NO!

What it does mean, however, is that I had better go back and learn how to do some better marketing. I had better go and get some help. I had better start looking for different solutions. From this perspective, I could make a change to my current experiences.

So, in this sense, fear has been very useful. It came just in the nick of time. If it wasn't for that fear, I wouldn't have taken the necessary steps to make sure that this event is a complete success. I can honestly tell you that I have left no stone unturned in the lead up to this evening seminar. Now I feel that whatever happens on the night is meant to happen and I can pick up and go from there. I will learn from this experience and make the next one even better.